Sunday, 1 May 2016

How I Avoided a Caesarean Delivery in Labor

Hello My Loves

This is only part of my whole labor story, but while I was telling a friend this the other day she suggested I share it on my blog as other women may find it helpful.  I will try to keep this post as concise as possible as writing about my delivery is full of emotions, but Ill try to keep it as factual as possible for you. 

When I was at the start of my labor, I had checked into the hospital and waited until I was further along before I went to the delivery suite.  I had no pain relief at this stage and was just doing as much walking as I could to let gravity help baby engage further and trying to keep calm through the contractions.  

The anesthesiologist visited me as I had expressed I might want an epidural later on.  So he visited me to ask some medical questions and whilst with me he looked at my bump and said 'You will be a cesarean delivery'.  I asked him on what grounds he suddenly seemed to be able to predict the future and he said 'You are progressing slowly, and look at the size of your husband'.  

I found this really maddening as he was informing me I wouldn't be able to have the delivery I had planned on, simply by looking at his watch and looking at the size of my husband.  It went against what I felt in my core about my baby and my body.  This made no sense to me and I thought it was pretty irresponsible of him.  

I replied that the midwives who checked me in said that because I went into labour naturally and it was my first baby that it would probably be a slow labour and not to worry about this.  They would be reluctant to give me medication to make labour faster as I was progressing at my own pace and once baby and me were monitored and happy there was no need for medical interference.  He just smiled at me patronisingly and said I would be a cesearan.  As if he was God Almighty of Every Womans Labour! It made me so annoyed.  Why say that to me in the middle of labour? 

I told my midwife on the ward what he said and she nodded in agreement.  She said 'I thought the same the minute I saw you and your husband, I mean look at the size difference'.  I am 5 foot tall, very slight build and my husband would be around 5,11 and a stocky build.  I got so annoyed by this as it really went against what I felt deep in my body.  I knew I could birth my baby naturally.  I knew my body would only give me a large baby if my body knew it would birth the baby.  I knew I was progressing slowly but that it was fine and both me and baby were calm and happy with the progress.  His heartbeat and mine were monitored all the time and there was no sign of distress. 

So, in my utter determination and listening to my inner voice, I turned to my hubbie and said 'Come on, we are going walking and giving our little baby a little helping hand with gravity'. And so in my pretty Topshop maternity dress, I threw on my Nike Air Max and a hoodie, for once not caring how un-coordinated I looked, we marched up and down those hospital stairs, pausing through contractions along the way. We walked the car park, we walked the grounds of the hospital and I spoke to my baby and encouraged him to come out for a hug and a kiss! 

I went back up the ward and was informed I had progressed enough to be admitted to the labour ward for delivery.  A few hours later, my big boy was born naturally. The most magical moment of my life when I felt my true power as a woman, and felt the instant bond of love with our new baby .  This was now our new family.  

I am not anti cesareans in any way.  They are medically necessary for some woman and babies and thankfully they exist so they can save lives and ensure safe deliveries. But for me, I knew in my core a cesarean was not for me and I felt the medical staff were giving me insufficient reason as to why I should have one.  

Because my husband is big and I am small is just not a good enough reason for me when everything was progressing smoothly. Each individual case is different and this is just my story but I believe its important to listen to the mothers voice in labor and to also remember that you have a voice and not be steam rolled by medical staff's opinion.  At the end of the day while medical training is vital, no one knows you, your body and your baby like you do.

Have you any similar experiences?  I would love to hear them.

Love, Mini 
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  1. Ah fair play Mini, you're dead right! I landed back in hospital for a second week with an infection in the C-section scar! Nightmare xx Siobhan

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    1. Oh wow Siobhan, that must have been tough, back in the hospital again with a newborn to take care of. I imagine it was quite painful too and made the recovery harder. What we go through as mothers eh?! You have earned all your fabulous Chanel collection, every single item lol! X

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  2. Well done you! I was a midwife and health visitor for years and it got me so mad when doctors would interfere with my deliveries! I saw several women end up with forceps because inexperienced doctors ( who often just wanted to cross procedures off their training list) would get ladies to start pushing too early, with the head too high. They would end up exhausted and needing a procedure I knew in my heart would have been unecessary if I had been totally in charge of their care. My punishment to those doctors would be to refuse to clear up after them, so they spent a good hour in the delivery room and sluice, but that was no compensation to the mother who had not experienced the natural birth I was pretty sure they were capable of.
    It also makes me so cross that 'professionals' would be so negative with someone in labour: many without your confidence and determination would have just given up and signed for a c-section which is major surgery at the end of the day and leaves a permanent scar in the womb and lower abdo. I hope pregnant readers of your blog will be inspired by your story !

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    1. Thanks so much for sharing Sue. I always think the midwives are the real experts when it comes to baby delivery. Of course doctors are necessary but I am glad in Ireland its the midwives that deliver. They have great experience and a bit more in tune with how a labour and delivery should go. I feel they are a bit more connected to the delivery! I read that famous midwife, Ina May Gaskin's book when pregnant about how doctors are interfering with womens labour when they should leave them alone and that kind of backed up my confidence too.

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  3. Loved this post! That's so incredibly ridiculous of the anaesthetist, although I'm not surprised. My baby is currently breached so I've been told to be prepared for a cesarian just in case. Hoping it won't come to that though!

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    1. I wouldnt worry about your baby being breach. Lots of my family and friends had a breech baby and often the baby turned during the actual labour. Trust that your baby knows what to do and will do it when the time is right for him/her. I totally trusted my baby knew what to do and ended up having a great labour and delivery (if a little long). How long do you have left? X

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  4. That procedure actually saves lives when needed , but you made the right choice by avoiding it, i've never had the experience ,but i'm glad you shared it on your blog. Have a great weekend dear.

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    1. Thanks for dropping by. I 100% agree with you, caesareans save lives and thankfully they exist for that reason. I actually had written about that in the latter part of my post. I hope when/if the time comes for you, you have a great delivery! Have a lovely weekend X

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  5. That was ridiculous and I'm glad you stuck to your guns. Congratulations on the arrival of your lil one.

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  6. I actually had csections for all my babies. I really wanted a natural birth but it never happened.

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  7. I am so happy that you stuck to what you knew was right for you and your baby. Glad that it worked out perfectly and you now have a perfect baby boy! Congratulations!

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  8. thanx for your great post
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  9. I do understand that a caesaran is necessary for some women, although I am happy to hear that you were able to avoid it. Well done you, and what a lovely post to read. Thanks for sharing your experience. <3 /Madison
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  10. Great post and pics! Kisses from Barcelona! :*

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